NM Update



Before Us, It Was "Police Stations and McDonald's"


May 16, 2010 by B. Israel

Max August remembers what court-ordered custody transfer looked like in Sante Fe, New Mexico, before he helped start two CRC Safe Haven Access Centers two blocks from each other on Barcelona Road, in 2004.

"They would do transfers at police stations and McDonald's," August, the Center Director, says. "At the McDonald's, the child would go in one door with one parent, and get shoved out another door with the other parent."

To August, a retired family therapist who had moved to Sante Fe from Los Angeles, it was clear that the fast-food version of custody transfer wasn't working. Buttons were pushed. Tempers blew. August became aware of the problem as a member of a men's group where some members were going through divorces. And he didn't like what he was hearing about.

"People carry show so much baggage through separation and divorce that just seeing each other can cause so many emotions," he said. "That emotion was displayed and even acted out on in front of the kids. My whole focus has been on the kids-- to make it better for them."

So August started a New Mexico nonprofit, Children First, which began offering co-parenting workshops, and he soon linked up with a leader in Monitored Transfer that was at the time setting up Safe Haven Access Centers up and down the East Coast, the Children's Rights Council (CRC).

"It became a no-brainer when I saw what CRC was doing," he recalls. August contacted David Levy, C.E.O of CRC until 2008. The two met in late 2003 at a CRC conference in Washington, D.C., where August and site coordinator Jim Preus got their training and soon opened up shop. Jim Preus also recruited Ann Morgan and Pauline Lagace from the Unitarian congregation to be co-site coordinators with him.

Santa Fe CRC Safe Haven Center Director Max August

Center Director Max August with granddaughter Lucy. Max started two CRC Access Centers with major support from the boards and congregations of both the Unitarian Universalist Church and Temple Beth Shalom, which are a few blocks from one another in Santa Fe. The Safe Haven program are part of the Social Justice outreach efforts of both the church and temple.

Levy recalls that period as one of furious growth for CRC. "We opened our first Center in 1999 with major support from Congresswoman Donna Edwards (D-MD), who was an advocate for supervised visitation," said Levy. "Soon we had 45." The pace of growth attracted attention and funding along the way from groups ranging from The Annie E. Casey Foundation to the Prince George's County, MD, courts.

"CRC was always pushing for two parent involvement," says Levy of the organization he helped found in 1985. "I had heard of access centers and figured it was right up our alley, a natural. Access centers calm down the situation. It's not the best of all worlds, but both parents are involved. There's supervision."

August came away from the conference inspired by Levy and an active chapter director, Margaret Wuwert of Toledo, Ohio. And he decided to make use of the network in Sante Fe that he and his wife, Diane, were involved in. Max attended the Unitarian Universalist Church, but was already aware of the possibilities of interfaith collaboration because of his involvement with the Jewish organization Tikkun, and his marriage to wife Diane, who is Jewish and a member of Temple Beth Shalom in Sante Fe.

"It was there in the back of my mind," said August. "I thought the two faith communities could be a place to do what we wanted to do. And also to get volunteers!"

CRC Sante Fe Access Center on first day in 2004

(L to R) Site Coordinators Marty Beldock, Toni Beldock, and Site Monitors Barbara Selnick, & Jay Selnick. Marty & Toni Beldock have been the Site Coordinators at Temple Beth Shalom from the very beginning of the initial planning and training (February, 2004 - May, 2010). That's over six years of dedicated service to the families of Santa Fe.  Barbara & Jay Selnick are Child Transfer monitors.

So that's just what August did, along with Jim Preus, and Toni and Marty Beldock. "Jim handled the Unitarian Church, Toni and Marty handled the Temple," August said. The congregations quickly recognized that they could help the cause of social justice and strengthen their relationship with one another at the same time. The boards of both UUCSF and TBS have included the Safe Haven program into their Social Justice outreach efforts.

CRC's Lesa D. Britt On What It Takes To Start A Safe Haven

  • 1. A Suitable Location. Often a school or church.
  • 2. Nonprofit status. A state tax-exempt nonprofit status.
  • 3. Time and Energy. It's a commitment. Max is proof.
  • 4. The CRC Start Up Packet. Starting a Safe Haven in a Nutshell.
  • 5. This Packet will explain lots of other things like...
  • 6. Hiring Monitors and Security and...
  • 7. Funding Sources and Volunteers.

A success story for August, and a curious one, given that as a family therapist in Los Angeles he had dreaded divorce when it came up in his practice. But later, in Sante Fe, he decided to step into the center of divorce disputes as a force for good. He now works in private practice as part of collaborative divorce team, all the while running co-parenting workshops through Children First.


To learn more about co-parenting workshops, write to [email protected] or call 505-473-7630, extension 1.

CRC's list of access centers can be found at: www.crckids.org/access. Think you might want to start a CRC Chapter or a Safe Haven Access Center as a nonprofit 501(c)(3) Contact C.E.O. Lesa D. Britt at [email protected].